Can Failure Be a Good Thing?

You have a goal something you really want and things don’t go right.  Then What?  Do you fold and give up your dreams or figure out how to regroup?

Fold up and “Host a Pity Me Party”? Not an option for me.

So how do we figure out how to regroup? Think on your end goal and your plan and the process you used to make your attempt.  Analyze it just as if you were watching a sports instant replay and answer these questions.  Don’t play the blame game or the “if only’s”!  Actually analyze the process – take the time it is worth it.

  • Is your end goal reasonable and attainable in the time frame you gave it?
  • Where did you start to notice a faltering in your path?
  • Was there a piece of information or training you were missing?
  • Were you sending yourself “failure” messages – setting yourself up for failure?

Perhaps your goal is very worthwhile to you and reasonable and attainable, but… 

  • You need more time than you allotted because you needed more information, tools, training to complete the task.
  • You were of the mind set of watering weeds as well as flowers in your mental garden?

Positive thought patterns of focusing on the end goal while working on the process of working the plan is the way to go.

Having a goal and failing and then regrouping is the same as a baby learning to walk.

  • How many times does the baby pull himself up on a piece of furniture or Dad’s pant leg and sit down quickly?
  • How many times does the baby take a step holding on to furniture letting go and plopping down quickly?
  • How many times does the baby topple over before walking to where he wants to go?
  • And, how many times does he stumble and fall before he can take off and run?
  • The answer to the above is: “As many times as needed to reach the goal of running.”

Take a lesson from the little ones in our lives.  Strive for our goal, fall, regroup, pick ourselves up and have another go. Like the baby striving to become a toddler keep going and focus on the process and learn from mistakes.

Always get up one more time than you fall and you will succeed.

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“Use the losses and failures of the past as a reason for action, not inaction.” Charles J. Givens



New Year’s Resolutions – Why Do They Fail?

How many of you readers have made a New Years Resolution only to break it as quickly as the champagne bubbles burst?

Come on now, be honest….  hands up, I know we all have done it at least once!


What is it that causes the failure?

We make the resolutions based on things we think we really want or want to do right?  Good intentions good goals for example:

  • We notice the waistbands getting tight and we resolve to “lose weight”.
  • Get colds too often that go into bronchitis and we resolve to “quit smoking”.
  • We trip over things in the garage and can’t get the car in and we resolve to “clear the clutter”.
  • We just paid off last years Christmas present bills and vow to have a better budget this year.

Failure to PLAN causes failure of everything!

  • Resolving to lose weight resolution will work better with a plan; join a gym and work out 3 days a week,  walk a specific amount of miles 3 days a week, enlist the aid of a dietitian [and follow the advise] and follow up on the plan religiously will set you up for success.
  • Resolving to quit smoking requires a plan; talk to your MD about assists [patches, medication, nicotine replacements, hypnosis etc].  Pick one of the plans suggested by your MD and stick with it – having a quitting partner will help also.
  • Clear the Clutter resolution plan would be to hire a professional clutter buster, or be your own.  If you are your own clutter buster pro you need to adhere to a specific criterion for keeping items.  For example: “If I have not used it, worn it etc for 2 years, out the door it goes.”
  • Resolving to budget our money better requires a budget plan.  If debt is truly out of control there are debt counselors or consumer counselors who are free or low cost to folks in financial trouble.

How about another option for this last resolution?

A plan to have more money, would be to have a new job, a new career or just a part-time position.  Something that you like to do that will earn you more money.  For this type of resolution with a plan a strategy click here.


The best to you for 2012!     Dr Jill